By the way, i think the most important part of surrounding ourselves with high quality friendships is, learning, to stay away from the people who doesn’t support us, who do us bad/harm or even destroys our inner child, our being….

…..just by envy. This is a topic that deserves its post.

Envy is a human condition that make people to pull others down, let’s take the example of a wall and a bunch of people climbing it (a bucket full of crabs trying to getting out of it will serve too)

Envy make people who look other people climbing it…. to pull them down…. by too many motives.

That’s the kinda relationships we all got to get rid

That’s the kinda relationship we all got to learn to stay aware for it

That’s the kinda relationship we all got to learn to let them go

That’s the kinda relationship we all got to take the concious effort to move on

For me its simple, Social proof, has its own standards (btw low standards) and when someone excel those (learned) standards…in their heads light a red bulb or red light that says “it cannot be done like he tryies to do, it has to be the way I LEARNED”

Thats the motive (justify) behind their behavior for their resistance to change….and when what they try to block…it actually works, thats the recipe of envy.

Like i said it is a completely new post… but…staying away form average, its the key to success….and success has its bill…..and it is envy.

So i think, by my experience, its important like a basket ball player: to have good offensive skills, but, to keep improving the defense too.

It isn’t just to learning to stay away from average, but to defend ourselves from the average people too, while in our journey to excel.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us, you are what i consider, a good friend.. success and well being to you my friend.

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Luckily, I’ve been lucky to have many amazing friends come into my live at different points.

I’ve found that in most cases it has actually been my friendships that have most helped me to realize when I am stagnating…and given me the added boost to get back in gear!

I am a true believer that the friends you keep define who you will become over the long term. Seeking out positive friendships (ones that will push me and help me grow) has therefore been a #1 priority for me throughout my life.

btw…checked out your site…it is great! will be reading it regularly from now on.

Your blog is a fantastic personal development resource.

You’re absolutely right!

We’re so focused on creating a career, marrying before a certain age, producing our 2.3 kids, doing what’s expected, making money, ticking boxes, doing all the necessary ‘practical life’ stuff, that we gradually and un-intentionally, lose part of ourselves.

Of course we have to make money, pay bills and do all those grown-up things, but for many of us, somewhere along the way we lost the idealist, the dreamer, the optimist and the kid in us, who was always going to do and be something amazing.

Somewhere between then and now our standards changed, we started to think differently and we let the world beat the hope, excitement, creativity and the optimism out of us.

Somewhere, somehow… we settled.
We compromised.
We got tired, frustrated and disillusioned.

We got older… and more cynical..and more negative… and smarter… and dumber.

We started to rationalise our current situation with a very sensible, mature… and crippling perspective.

Keep up the great writing Ravi!

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btw…when should I expect the grand re-opening of your blog?